Tuesday, May 08, 2007

Bringing sexy back to the Church




The week @ Church, we talked about sex. You should have seen the faces. Some people decided to not come even because of the topic. Thisis the overview of what I said. I know I said more, but I don't have those notes.


  • We removed the kids this morning for a children’s worship experience, not because we are going to be graphic, but so they don’t ask you questions when you look so nervous and so you can give full attention to Scripture.

  • There will be very little application or how to, we will not be giving you a put tab “A” into slot “B” kind of sermon.

  • I will not be sharing personal testimony or giving cute illustrations. We look at the Scripture and let it guide us now matter who scary it is.

  • Take a trip down to the local grocery store and you will see magazine after magazine with articles about sex. Women’s magazines, Men’s magazines, automobile and even music magazines are filled with sex.

  • Turn on the television and you will be bombarded with inappropriate ideas of sex.
    Flip the TV off and the radio on and you hear songs like Salt b’ Pepa singing “let’s talk about sex baby, lets talk about you and me” Or how about Color me Badd with their song about song called I want to sex you Up. Those are some older ones an I understand that David Allen Coe had some that the Cowfolk like that are very raunchy in there lyrics. And Justin Timberlake had is song where say he is bring Sexy Back.

  • They world is educating us and our young people on sex, but this is not right. This is not the way it should be.

  • God created it but for the most part His Church is quit on it. It is time that the Church let God bring sexy back so we approach sex the right way, because if all the Church does is point their collective finger and tell you how not to have sex, then who will teach them what it the right way to have sex.

  • So here is the deal - Singles people are having sex while Married couples are not. We pray teens are not having sex, but their grandparents are since the invention of the little blue pill. Viagra had changed the age range of sex lives

  • In truth sexual transmitted disease statistic are rising the fastest in the senior population because they are having sex. So this message is for all of us.

Gen 2:21-5 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. The man said, "This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man." For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

  • Gen 2:21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. We see the Work of Creation being continued in God’s creation of a wife for Adam in from of Eve.

  • Gen 2:22 The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. As Jehovah has removed the rib, He has created the most beautiful woman that Adam had ever seen. Then he brought this stunning creature to Adam. We see God playing suitor here.

  • Gen 2:23 The man said, "This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man." This is now bone of my bones – Eve was something that Adam had longed for and God had provided.

    • John Calvin put it this way, He said “Adam indicates that something had been wanting to him; as if he had said, now at length I have obtained a suitable companion, who is part of the substance of my flesh, and in whom I behold, as it were, another self.”

    • Adam is in complete understanding that Eve is not only part of his body, but she is a part of his life.

  • Gen 2:24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.

  • Leave and cleave is how we have traditionally talked about this.

    • Be leaving they are making a public commitment of loyalty of their love.

    • By leaving they are making a commitment to intimacy.

    • For Real intimacy to happen there needs to be alone time if you know what I mean.

    • Real Sex needs real privacy –away from family and work and kids and what have you.

    • Become one flesh –they joining of two, the tender, God glorifying love between husband and wife.

    • This is the union of two souls being knit together

    • The Hebrew word behind this means to intertwine or to mingle together.

    • This is intimacy, closeness and understanding

    • Intimacy needs communication. When there is poor communication there is poor physical relations.

    • Even the world know that sex is communication- they use the euphemism – that they “knew them Biblically”

    • To know some one you have to have communicated with them

    • Communication is talking and it being in contact, being in touch

    • 1Co 7:3-5 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. (4) The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. (5) Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

    • We need to be wary of not having intimate relations between husband and wife because not only do you belong to your spouse, but we are warned that Satan will use it marital celibacy as a weapon of evil.

    • Paul says this because, if natural lustful man is left alone he will defile the marriage bed some how some way.

    • Pro 5:18-19 - Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love.

    • 1Co 6:18 - Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.

    • When you flee, you need to run right it the arms of your spouse.

    • Paul encourages sex between husband and wife because of the intimacy, because of the communication, because of the please and because of procreation.

    • Gen 2:25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.

    • Read S.O.S. 7:1-10

    • This is a wisdom book in the Bible, the guy who wrote proverbs, Solomon, wrote this to.

    • Hebrew teenage boys were not allowed to read this. Some people wanted to remove it from the Bible, other people try to say that it is about Jesus and the Church

    • Son 7:7-8 make this hard to believe, yet we always say we believe the Bible is literal

      Don’t forget the closeness and intimacy of our marriages is a representative of the deeply personal relationship we are to have with the Lord spiritually.

      Go and honeymoon again and return to an intimacy between husband and wife that honors Christ and His death.


      2 comments:

      Steve said...

      Preach it, brother!

      Chris said...

      thanks steve. i needed the encourgement. you woudl have thought i was showin video by the fear on their faces. we had an elderly couple that had been inted by a member visiting. they seemed the least bothered by ths.